I read this great article this morning on how TEXTING is ruining relationships for teenagers. Great article. I would even go so far as to say texting, Instagram, SnapChat, IM and e-mail's - well, they have changed the way we behave in relationships.
Some of it good. Some of it bad. Instant communication is great for little stuff. Just landed. I'm done. Can't wait to see you. Pictures of what I'm doing.
This morning I was completely on board with the article. (click on TEXTING above and it will take you to the article). Completely agreed with the entire article. We spend too much time NOT communicating verbally. Technology has made our lives easier - easier to avoid.
What ever happened to a good old fashioned phone call? Say hi! Just CALL the person.
I sent this article to a couple of friends - we have teenage kids - we could all appreciate the perspective. Also, as a single woman, it's easier to depend on text versus verbal communication.
A magical thing happened then happened this afternoon.
We found out Lily did a photo shoot for a swimwear/snow wear line. Duncan picked up his phone and called her. They talked for a while. He put on her on speaker.
Nolan had fallen asleep on the couch. The Duncan and Lily relationship is so natural - they are truly brother and sister. There are no worries about "what do I say?" "will he think I'm weird?" "will she think I'm weird". Well, she might have a few of those worries, but on this end - Duncan loves her like he loves Nolan. Duncan starts lecturing her about the pictures she posts, they talk about her crushes - it was a conversation of friendship.
The funny thing is that I know Nolan wanted to talk to her too. But they still 'like' each other, only they pretend not too - so the communication thing gets a bit harder.
THEN, another magical thing happened. Duncan decided to "Facetime" Lily - this is much like Skype where you can actually see the person. So, Lily and Duncan can actually see each other. Nolan could make his cameo appearance without being too nervous. Lily could make gestures not to tell Nolan what she was doing. As we all know they both still do like each other. You know, like each other.
She joined us for dinner. I hear her tell her mom "I can't do that right now, I'm having dinner with the McIntosh's". We set her a spot at the table and all had dinner. Laughing. Going through our Good Thing, Bad Thing, Funny Thing. Missing our dinners/breakfasts on the island
Yes, there were a few awkward moments. There were giggles and smiles. All from many many miles apart.
As with everything, moderation......