I guess these are "glass half empty" types. Also, most of the time, these same people don't look in the mirror and accept that they are causing most of their own problems. It's easier to blame someone else.
You know, those classic examples:
- The waiter was rude to me, so I had a lousy dinner.
- My ex-wife won't share the time with the kids, so I don't get to see them.
- I have an allergy to wheat, so I'm fat.
- No one ever calls me, so I don't have any friends.
I could go on and on. But what I realized is people are just addicted to the drama of it all. Without complaining about each and every thing, they wouldn't know what to do. They just play the "victim" card. Poor me. If everyone else would just let me do things my way, it would all be fine.
Gee, I wish life were really like that. But no, instead, people need to understand we cause our own drama.
In the four cases above, there are a million different scenarios where it's just the situation.
- Your dinner was lousy? You were tired. It was cold out side. YOU were grumpy, not the waiter
- Can't see your kids? What you are retired and live in another state? YOU move. Did your kids move? Or was it you?
- Wheat is making you fat? Stop eating wheat. No one is forcing you.
- You don't have any friends? You have to call them too. The phone rings both ways.
Of course, I've over-simplified these examples. But, the holidays are here and in order for us all to get along, we all need to accept our own responsibility for OUR own thoughts.
And once you walk away from the drama, once you realize that YOU are in charge of your own happiness. Well, it's a pretty darn good world out there!