Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Addicted to the Drama

We've all known those people.  People whom, no matter, what, something is wrong with their life.  One problem gets solved, life is good for day or so, then there is another problem.

I guess these are "glass half empty" types.  Also, most of the time, these same people don't look in the mirror and accept that they are causing most of their own problems.  It's easier to blame someone else.

You know, those classic examples:

  • The waiter was rude to me, so I had a lousy dinner.  
  • My ex-wife won't share the time with the kids, so I don't get to see them.
  • I have an allergy to wheat, so I'm fat.
  • No one ever calls me, so I don't have any friends.

I could go on and on.  But what I realized is people are just addicted to the drama of it all.  Without complaining about each and every thing, they wouldn't know what to do.  They just play the "victim" card.  Poor me.  If everyone else would just let me do things my way, it would all be fine.

Gee, I wish life were really like that.  But no, instead, people need to understand we cause our own drama.

In the four cases above, there are a million different scenarios where it's just the situation.

  • Your dinner was lousy?  You were tired.  It was cold out side.  YOU were grumpy, not the waiter
  • Can't see your kids?  What you are retired and live in another state?  YOU move.  Did your kids move?  Or was it you?  
  • Wheat is making you fat?  Stop eating wheat.  No one is forcing you.
  • You don't have any friends?  You have to call them too.  The phone rings both ways.
Of course, I've over-simplified these examples.  But, the holidays are here and in order for us all to get along, we all need to accept our own responsibility for OUR own thoughts.

And once you walk away from the drama, once you realize that YOU are in charge of your own happiness.  Well, it's a pretty darn good world out there!


  1. I'm not sure I want to walk away from the drama (does that make me drama dependent?) because the drama is my family and you're supposed to at least tolerate your family, no? And actually I do like life better when we're not in touch but then I get nervous because I know the next big bang is coming and somehow they insist I be dragged into it or at the very least they insist I have to hear about it. And pick a side, which makes me a loser because I always pick the side of reason. How unreasonable of me, eh?

  2. At least you know the drama is coming! And no you aren't the loser - if you are aware - you are being in charge of your happiness!! Hang strong!