Be present. In everything you do.
You know what's annoying? When you look around a restaurant and people are engaged with their paper or their phones. Not with the person/people sitting at the table with you. Yes, sometimes, you do need to answer a call, but really? Not really.
People aren't present. Right here and now.
I'm really bad at this - just in the opposite way of everyone else. When I'm present, I can't imagine ever being any where/place than where I am at that moment. I don't wish my time away. I want to be right here. Right now.
Then, of course, I take it too far. I then imagine I will always be in this place. HOWEVER, an hour later when the time is over. I'm on to the next thing - and can never imagine, once again, that I could be any place else. Not pining for where I was either. Present in the new place.
My new part-time job. It was much needed in my life. I'm distracted. Happy. Busy. What I needed in my life. My thoughts: "this job is great. I'm helping out a lot. There are shares for me - this is an 18 month project. I could really make some money when this company sells. I can do this for 18 months." Hmmmmmm, wonder what I'm going to do about Hawaii next summer? I guess maybe I can only be gone for two weeks next summer. I'll need to be here for this job.
Recruiting is going well. My part-time job is going well. Boys are doing great. Hockey season is under way. Life is flowing along.... We are healthy. We are loved. We have a roof over our head and people to care about us. Who would want for more?
A phone call.
What you say? Can we trade houses again for the original Hawaii house? After all our daughter is having a baby. We want to come for the summer. Can you stay longer this summer?
Poof. Just like that.
Gypsy Leasa says: "We can trade for as long as you want. Just let us know".
What happened to "only two weeks next summer?" What happened to "being right where I am?". Shares? Stock options?
Oh, what you say??? You want me to come to Hawaii and live in my house again, with the neighbor Joe next door?
I love this whole wonderful incredible life we've created here in our everyday life. I also love our summer life.
Thankfully, we don't have to choose one or the other. We can choose both. I can love both wholly, fully and in the present. Together. Each at their own time. Loving the one I'm with.