Thursday, February 20, 2014


People use the term "divorce" all the time now.  I"m going to "divorce" my bank - I don't want to do business with them any more.  I'm "divorcing" a job, it's not healthy.

Divorce isn't always about a marriage of two people.  But today, let's look at a positive side of divorce between two people.

Here you have two people whom don't agree on things any more.  Yes, I think divorce is a cop-out and people do get divorced without trying hard.  But you can also get married with doing any work either.  I think we have the system backwards:  there should be a year waiting period after you decide you want to get married before you can get married.  If you still want to get married after the year, then you can get married.

You hear all time the time "kids of divorce are from a broken home".  Yes, there are some bad situations out there.  I also know plenty of people whom aren't happy together, yet stay together for the kids.  Meanwhile, the kids are living in hell because NO ONE is happy.

What about the happy medium?

I think my sons play ENTIRELY too much hockey.  Travel teams, club teams, school teams?  Where do you draw the line?

If I was still married, I would just have to deal with it.  And not be happy - I wouldn't not be happy because my sons are playing hockey, I would be sad because I wouldn't be able to show them the things I think are important in their growth.  We wouldn't be able to go to Hawaii.  We wouldn't be able to travel for non-hockey adventures. And many other things.

Instead, in our family, we accept differences.  I support the hockey opportunities emotional for my kids, just not financially.  Their dad supports his sons opportunities to explore the world emotionally, just not financially.

We both understand our boys best interest is at heart.  We just have different adventures for them.

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