Granny: How's Earnest doing?
Me: Granny, his name is Everett. He's doing well.
"Earnest is nice man"
Me: Yes, Granny, EVERETT is a really nice man.
This conversation went on for years.
Everett was one of my closest male friends. I would even go to say he, for a period of time, was one my my closest of friends. Period. He was in the "inner circle".
I loved him. I love his children. We vacationed together. We skied together. We met fun friends together. It was everything a "relationship" was/is supposed to be. ONLY, there was no chemistry. We were FRIENDS. Only, male/female, but JUST FRIENDS.
On a camping trip years ago, I had his son and my two sons (he wasn't there), late at night, I was sitting around the campfire with one of his dearest male friends.
Granted, I'm a little slow some times. I accept things at face value - I don't dream on. Remember, this is an Independent Film. However, here is this very successful male with two kids. Here is a successful female with two kids. It worked for us. Truth be told, I have never kissed this man. It would be like kissing my brother. Our joke for years "I don't care what you say about kissing your sister/brother, I'm still not kissing you".
Back to the campfire. "Earnest" is really high maintenance. I did love the man. Only, I didn't LOVE him, like society thought I should. Loved him in the way, that we worked well together, only, well, I was attracted to him in a safe big brother kind of way. Not sure if he was never attracted to me.
Once again, back to the campfire.
Me: "Robbo, are we the only two people that don't know we are in love with each other?"
Robbo (his closest male friend): yep........
He walked off.
Ok, game changes.
Only, I know I always loved this man. Only, he's too controlling, too...... and on and on and on. He remained my good friend for many years. Then one day, a new girlfriend didn't understand, truly, he IS JUST MY FRIEND.
In the picture, he fits. I fit into his picture. It all works perfect. Only, it doesn't matter HOW long you know someone, how much money they have, or where they live - if it DOESN'T FIT, well, it doesn't fit.
I wish it did. He was a great dad. (It's been years since we've hung out together). He's financially, well, let's just just say, the his and her Porches' would not have been a problem. Then one day, he quit calling.... Wait, "you are one of my dearest friends and you just STOP CALLING ME???" Being the proud woman I am, well, let him go on...
We ran into each other and he can't even talk to me. I don't have friends like this. When you have me as a friend, you, well, have me forever. I was friends with him for years - then he just went away.....
I asked Robbo about this one day. After all, we are still friends. "What did I do wrong??? Where did my friend Everett go??." Usually, when I have friends, I have them for the rest of my life.
Pause "I had nothing left to give".
Robbo: He knew that - he had to go get more
Me: I don't have friends like that.
Robbo: The rest of us know that - that is why we all will be together forever. He was put here to connect the rest of us.
Me: But, I don't have to miss you. You will always be here for me. He keeps going, trying to get more.
Robbo: Yeah, but he was supposed to connect the rest of us - and we all knew that from the beginning. We just didn't know we knew it. (BTW, I had two knee surgeries, I golfed with your son) Debra and I can't wait to dance at the boys wedding.....
Me: My boys know that.
BOYS: By the way, Robbo and Everett know each other???
Me: Everett was friends with Robbo & Debra, that's how we met them.
BOYS: Really, Robbo and Debra are friends with Everett?????
Every once in a while, you get a tap on your shoulder....... "Do you want to meet????" Only, well, you add this person to your team....
I ran into Everett tonight. He introduced me as the mom of "Our kids grew up together". I immediately mentioned, "Oh, Granny, says hi". I have to go.......