Friday, March 2, 2012

Questions & Answers

It's difficult to ask hard questions.  If you ask the question, you have to be prepared for the answer.  If you don't ask the question, you don't have to deal with the answer.  It's called avoidance.   

Things are usually worse in our heads, then they ever are out loud.  We think of "what will they think"  We exaggerate in our minds.  My favorite thing people do is "I think, they are thinking blah, blah, blah".  Let's start with this premise:  We NEVER know what someone else is thinking.  PERIOD.  There are tons of these types of examples:  Ted Bundy?  The 9/11 terrorist?  We would have never dreamed people had thoughts like this.

Rules for moving forward in life:
  • Ask hard questions 
  • Be prepared to deal with the answers
  • No matter what you WANT the answer to be, understand it is out of your control.
  • Give unconditionally 
  • Risk it all - the answer might actually be better than you thought.
Just remember sometimes a question is just a question.  There is no deeper meaning.  When someone asks you to go to the beach.  That is all they are asking you.  They aren't asking you to run away with them.  They are saying "DO YOU WANT TO GO TO THE BEACH?"  That's a yes or no question.

Say "yes" more than you say "no".  And enjoy the day.  Today.  Not tomorrow, not next week, just today.

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